First, I want to say, I love my husband very, very much. I'm not the kind of girl who wanted to get married and start a family just for the sake of getting married and starting a family, so I would have to love my husband very much in order to take the plunge. But wow, he can sure be frustrating sometimes. Trying to get him to help out around the house is a pain. There are some things he does, such as laundry (but he leaves all my clean clothes in a big pile on my side of the bed, and doesn't tell me until I head into the bedroom to go to bed, and then I have more work to do). He often clears the table after dinner, and if I'm lucky he'll put some dishes in the dishwasher. But most of the time, he seems to think that since he worked all day, he should get the evening off. But I worked all day too!!! And if I ask if he wants to go out to eat, he often says he's tired, he just wants to stay home, which translates to me cooking and cleaning while he sits and looks at stuff on his tablet. Anyway, last night he actually did the dishes and it was AWESOME. And as much as I want to thank him for it, he really should be doing the dishes EVERY night.
Anyway, one more random note before I jump into the main event. Our house has been on the market for just over a week. We've had a ton of people come to see it, and we've received one offer so far, that is lower than we'd like. We countered with a much higher offer, but still offered to pay more than our share of closing costs. On the one hand, I feel a bit of a kindred spirit with the buyer. She's a single woman, like I was when I bought the house (well, it's possible she's NOT single, but she is buying the house by herself - any partner in her life will not be on the title). She is using an FHA loan, borrowing something like 96% of the purchase price. I didn't have to borrow quite that much, but only because I was "lucky" enough to have lost my job a few months earlier and received a lot of money in severance and unused vacation pay. But we want to move into a nicer house, in a nicer neighborhood, and have enough space to raise a family. We also need to have enough money to START a family, since IVF isn't cheap and the more traditional methods aren't working. So we can't really be too accommodating.
We put an offer on a house my husband really likes in a nearby town. Of course, as is our luck with these things, someone else made an offer on the same day, after the house had been on the market with no activity for 50 days. We're waiting to hear back, but since we're not in contract to sell our house yet, it's unlikely we will get it. I'm hoping we will be in contract soon, and that we can then buy the house I really want, even though it needs some work.
So last night we went to an IVF seminar. It was really good, because my husband finally got a good explanation of how a lot of this stuff works. I think he really understands the different options now, and why IVF is a better option than IUI (since, as far as we know, his sperm are perfect and IUI doesn't really do anything that we can't do ourselves for free). I told them we would probably be interested in starting the process in two months, and that they could contact us to set up our initial consult. We got to see video of a sperm making it's way into an egg on it's own, and with help from an embryologist (and now I kind of want to be an embryologist. It looks cool!). We also got to see lots and lots of pictures of eggs, embryos at different stages of cell division, and blastocysts.
I was only mildly disappointed when we got to the car afterwards, and he turned to me and asked "so is an egg different from an embryo?"
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