Embryo donation

My husband (who is seriously in the dog house right now, for other reasons) and I were eating some meal sometime this weekend and listening to Pandora.  I believe it was lunch on Saturday, but we had such a crazy weekend that I can't remember.  Anyway, we were listening to Pandora and an ad came on about a local fertility clinic that offered embryo donation programs.  I looked it up, and the price is very comparable to the program we're in right now.  As much as I like the idea of having a genetically-linked child, I'm not that picky, honestly.  What if the baby ended up with my horrible vision and his horrible teeth?  I would feel so bad about it!

In terms of pros and cons, the donated embryo option would be slightly cheaper and would come with a guarantee (no baby after three tries = money back).  The embryo would likely be healthier than any embryo we could make ourselves since our eggs and sperm are older and likely to have more problems.  I'm really leaning towards IVF with donated embryos.  My husband, on the other hand, wants to try regular IVF first, but if that failed, I don't see how we could afford any more treatments, and the donor embryos have a much higher chance of working, plus I wouldn't have to go through the agony of stimulation and collection.

In other news, I've been thinking a lot lately about how men have traditionally avoided marriage (because they lose their freedoms, have a wife and future family to support, etc) and women have traditionally wanted marriage (because they need someone to support them), and I wonder why that stereotype hasn't changed now that more women are working, and more women are primary breadwinners.  I got married last summer.  I love my husband.  But I'm the primary breadwinner, and I'm still somehow expected to do all the cooking and housework, and manage the household.  My husband does do the laundry, walks the dogs, and does a few other things around the house.  But I feel like he gets WAY more out of being married than I do.  Ergo, I think it's time to change the stereotype.